“The constellation I did with Joke was very special. Together we looked at a theme, an important common thread in my life. I chose 4 people to whom I gave a place on a chair, next to me. At first it felt strange and far away, but that quickly changed. It became intense, because at a certain point I gave myself over to it. Joke regularly had her eyes closed, total concentration on what was happening, and what was being passed on through her. She talked, asked questions and helped me further, like a guide. I gave something back to each person in my constellation. The most difficult one that touched me the most, my father, last. My father passed away 5 years ago, but for a year now he has regularly attended the sessions with Joke. The same goes for the constellation. How did I feel afterwards? Very calm. And what did it ultimately do to me? It set a process in motion, or accelerated what was already going on. It makes me more aware of patterns that I have 'inherited', and that I can give back burdens to those who have them hear burdens. That brings relief; for me not suddenly like a bolt of lightning, but step by step and very steadily. As Joke said so beautifully: if you take this on, you can't go back.” *Judith*